Distance.....
Distance = Speed x Time
We all know this.
Just want to interpret the above equation when its distance between people and not objects or places.
As Amitabh Bachchan said in the oft copied.. now cult scene ... in the movie HUM "Is duniya mein do tarah ka keeda hota hai".
Simply paraphrasing it - "Is duniya mein do tarah ka distance hota hai"
1. Physical - Living in separate houses, localities, cities, states, countries, continents, planets... blah blah....
2. Mental - Despite living in the same room - feeling so far apart that people living in different galaxies feel more connected and closer.
If there is physical distance between 2 ppl but no mental distance - All's well my boy but if its the other way round,
about time you try and build the bridge or you have lost her/him.
If there is physical distance, the chances of mental distance increase.
If there is mental distance, physical distance does not matter - if its thr or not. .
Let try and re write the equation.
(Time Apart x Other Attractions x Worldly pressures)^disTRUST
D = ---------------------------------------------------------------
(Time together x Commonalities)^TRUST
Time apart is directly proportional to distance. As time apart increases while two people are staying apart - distance increases too. Well... In most cases. Some last 4 months, some last 4 years. But keep stretching this.. and you will lose it.
Time Together - as you can see - is inversely proportional. Spend more time together before moving apart and you will get a better chance to know each other better. What the other person likes, dislikes, hates, loves, abhors etc etc. What makes the other person tick, un tick, cross, un cross .. blah blah blah. The way you chew, talk, laugh, crack jokes, smile, react when the other person is cross. Also, it helps you determine - if you really want to let distance come in between you and the other party or not.
Other Attractions - This is the factor which takes the biggest share of blame by the party which did not want the distance to come in. Other attractions - could include a hajjar things - The usual ones are - Career, Someone else (basically someone better than you - better looking, better sense of humor, better connection.. or plain and simple BETTER IN THE OTHER PERSON'S EYES)
The unusual/funny/crazy ones are - city (The city changed you - so u dont like me anymore), company
(your friends incited you against me) .. bull shit bull shit bull shit. Please add to the list :)
Commonalities - As the name suggests - things common between you, help you in sticking together. From
important things like your view on relationships, your vision of future .....
to not - so - important things like whats your favorite dish, favorite movie, favorite daal... to crazy things like "whether rakhi
sawant should be evicted from big boss" and "India will win the world cup"
Worldly Pressures - Honestly, I am not clear about this one. But am sure these exist. Not all of us are strong in the mind like me (just kidding!!!) and succumb to worldly pressures of earning more money, having a better girl/boy, or just a girl/boy who is willing to be had, "beta...when will you get married by ev1" etc etc...
Trust - Well... this is the killer. For Galli cricketers "beech ka bichchu" gets to bat from both side. In the numerator as well as denominator'. Depending on whether its positive or negative. If positive, you will trust your partner when he/she is out with someone else watching a movie, having dinner etc etc.
If you got negative trust / disTRUST - you are jacked. Not you, not your mama, not anyone can prevent the distance. But if you have (+ive) TRUST , you gotta much better chance. But dont stretch it for too olong. coz It will run out.
I am sure there is much more to what brings or eliminates distance between people. This is what i think. Please feel free to add to it.
By the way... I hate MATHS...
